Project Jason 2009 Retreat
Keys to Healing: Mind, Body, and Spirit ~ Project Jason Retreat ~ Omaha, NE August 13-15, 2010
Support a cause and DONATE to Project Jason: Assistance for Families of the Missing On June 17, 2008 the First Missing and Unidentified Persons Awareness Day was held in the state of Missouri. Investigation Discovery Blog for the Missing Missing Pieces Radio
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year old missing from Belton, Missouri since May 2007*** “When will I begin to feel better? When will I return to normal? When will I achieve some closure?” grievers often ask. Closure, our culture tells us, will bring about a tidy ending, a sense of completion. Some grievers hope that the desired magical closure will occur after the funeral or memorial service. Others are confident it will come once they have cleared out their loved one’s room. Or maybe after a special personal ritual. Or perhaps after the first anniversary comes and goes—“surely then, we will have closure,” we think. We pray… The reason we long for closure, of course, is because we would like to neatly seal away all of this pain. We would like to close all of the sad, confused, desperate, angry feelings out of our life. We would like to put all of this behind us. Closure. What an odd concept really, as if we could truly close the door turn the lock and throw away the key. The truth is far more complex, of course. Closure is for business deals. Closure is for real estate transactions. Closure is not for feelings or for people we love. Closure simply does not exist emotionally, not in a pure sense. We cannot close the door on the past as if it didn't’t exist because, after losing someone dear to us, we never forget that person or the love we shared. And in some ways, we never entirely get over the loss. We learn to live with the loss, to integrate it into our new identity. Imagine if we really could end this chapter in our life, completely. It would mean losing our memories, our connections to those we love. If we really found closure, it would ironically hurt even more because the attachment would be severed. And this attachment is vital to us—the memories are treasures to be held close, not closed out. Perhaps it is better to think in terms of healing. Yes, we can process our pain and move to deeper and deeper levels of healing. Yes, we can find ways to move on and channel our pain into productive activities. Yes, we can even learn to smile again and laugh again and love again. But let’s not ever think that we’ll close the door completely on what this loss means, for if we did that, we would unwittingly close the door on all the love that we shared. And that would truly be a loss too terrible to bear. Prayer
to Find What Is Lost PRAYER FOR JON Myspace Site click here. O, Blessed Mother and St Joseph,
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USMC (Ret) MSGT Jon Van Dyke Maliciously Missing May 19, 2005 - Proof he's alive May 11, 2009
It has been since May 19, 2005 since I hugged and kissed Jon goodbye at our front door and then never saw or talked to him again until May 11, 2009. 4 years, it's unimaginable. Jon is alive but we don't have the whole story. He is a shell of himself, nothing exists of his personality/major personality shift took place. He has huge memory gaps. He dyes his hair, has fake teeth, wears wierd jewelry, wears clothes that he doesn't even look comfortable in. He met "friends" along the way....total strangers that are taking advantage of a man who may have stroked or had a major mental breakdown. To see our thought process (with timeline) through this whole ordeal click here.
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this time we are leaving this site up pretty much as is. This
site is the documentation for how hard, and with so much love and
concern for Jon's welfare that my family put in to the search for
him. Thank you to all that helped us search! So many people
put in many, many hours ....thank you for caring! I will be drafting legislation to make it a criminal offense for an adult to go maliciously missing. Anyone 16 or older who decides to walk away from their life must present themselves to any law enforcement agency in the country within X amount of hours and sign a statement that this is their wish. Law enforcement will need to gather proof that the person standing in front of them is who they say they are. Snapping a photo of the person, fingerprinting and obtaining and entering a DNA swab (national database?) from the person. Law enforcement will then have X amount of hours to notify the family and provide them concrete proof that this is their loved one who stood before them. Law enforcement should also provide to the person walking away from their lives a list of resources to closest mental health agencies, domestic violence shelters, abuse shelters, rehabs, marriage counselors, etc. Anyone abusing this system will be fined x amount of dollars. _________________________ My thoughts on this law: LE will no longer be able to say that all adults are off starting new lives and all teenagers are runaways. It will give LE clear direction on when to begin a search for someone. It will give families answers immediately. As for the DNA swab well if you are a spouse of a missing person there are many legal things that come into play that don't happen in other missing situations. Property, trust, insurance, etc. Even if the spouse is walking away from his/her life but doesn't pursue divorce yet becomes deceased during this period how is the left behind spouse ever going to know what legal avenues to follow? How will they know their spouse has passed? DNA entered into a national database will certainly help alleviate those questions. Trust me as spouse's I have found out we have little rights. I had to get a court order for everything I did. Also, in the case of a teenager who is off starting a new life they are still someone's daughter/son and the family has a right to know if their child met with foul play while pursuing a new life. I put
in this proposed law that the person walking away can go to any
law enforcement in the country in x amount of hours specifically
for DV cases and child abuse cases. It will give them distance before
they report. And, they won't have to report to what they may consider
a corrupt police agency.
I've been told the reasons for Jon's disappearance are everything from gambling debt (dang I knew those nickel slots, one nickel at a time, would be his undoing someday!), to Jon was going to be fired for lying on a loan application (no corporation hints to you you'll be fired...they immediately fire you and walk you out of the building!), to he's with another woman (so why didn't he divorce me 4 years ago, why disappear?), that Jon is constantly in and out of different states, to he's dead. So, I am married to a gambler, a lousy employee, a cheater and a liar, a man who has no roots, who is dead and is now resurected? All scenarios that not one person has backed up with proof. What is true is that Jon has no direct phone number, no direct address, no driver's license, no taxes paid, no bills paid, no utilites in his name, no action on credit reports, no accessing his email addresses, and no legal employment. Professional skip traces lead nowhere. Jon's life appears to have stopped on May 19, 2005. And, since his resurrection there is still NO trace of him going about life as a normal, legal citizen. For craminy sakes, I'm just a woman who kissed her husband goodbye at the door on May 19, 2005 as he was leaving for work and NEVER saw or HEARD from him again NOR did I ever SEE any photos of him at an ATM. He told me he loved me and that is the last truth I know. I owe it to my love of Jon and because of my love of Jon to make sure he is okay physically and mentally. I owe it to my 28 year marriage to make sure that Jon's disappearance wasn't coerced and that he is not being coerced now. If you aren't going to help get to the truth then get out of my way. In 4 years much has happened and I can't pick up a phone and call Jon to let him know of events taking place that impacted him and his family. Recently a good friend and former co-worker of Jon's passed away and I can't tell him. We had a family medical emergency that Jon wasn't present for. And, in 2006 my mother passed away and Jon could not be notified. Please keep my family in your prayers until we do have the truth. And, thank you to those who have stood by me and my family! Maureen
Missing Person Flyer | Route of Jon's Errand | Prayer Lines | CUE KC Rally | New Photos | Missing Adults (rev 12-23-07)
Please if you know anything, if you remember anything about that day that Jon disappeared, please email me. If you saw or talked with Jon when he left Citigroup that day, or if you saw Jon at Smith's Grocery Store in front of the Budget Rental counter (or if you saw him in the Smith's Food and Drug Store [2211 N. Rampart Blvd, Las Vegas, NV] parking lot) where he was running his errand to on his lunch break, please let me know what you saw or heard!!!!! Thank you, Maureen
Last Mother's Day E-card from Jon, just weeks before
he went missing.
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H.R. 3695, To authorize funding for, and increase accessibility to, the National Missing and Unidentified Persons System, to facilitate data sharing between such system and the National Crime Information Center database of the Federal Bureau of Investigation, to provide incentive grants to help facilitate reporting to such systems, and for other purposes
We all need to be on the same page. This is our tool. Our national repository for information on unidentifieds and the missing in the USA. This is what the families of the missing want...NamUs! A one stop shop where the information of the missing and the information of unidentifieds is in one spot. Anyone can enter data including the families of the missing. Anyone can search the data. Make your law enforcement, coroner's and medical examiners aware of this tool. Volunteer to input their cold cases and backlogged cases. Giving the 40,000 + unidentiifed names and bringing the over 100,000 missing home (USA). How could you not get on board with this? How could you not help by volunteering?
Thank you Peace 4 the Missing!!!!
Our new grandson!
Our youngest child's wedding day!
McDonald Family Reunion - July 2008 - Columbus, OH
Nightmare in Vegas the Missing
Song titled: Melanie's Whispers "Bringing awareness to the THOUSANDS who walk the path of the MISSING." Written
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To those that stood in my way of the truth, and instead of helping stabbed us in the back including an organization who lied about being a non-profit group, and any of the other middle school minded people who TRIED to hurt my family well all I can say you will get out of life just what you put into it...you spewed hate and lies and that is just what your lives will now be filled with.
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